The Old Dog Can Learn. He's Just Too Loaded Down to Try

"I'm too set in my ways." You've said it. I've said it. And it sounds like a man who finally knows himself. It's a lie. And your own brain proves it.

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I hear some version of this almost every week. And it never comes out sounding like an excuse.

"I'm too set in my ways." "That ship has sailed for me." "I am who I am at this point." Or sometimes it's just the old line itself, tossed off with a laugh. You can't teach an old dog new tricks.

And it sounds like a man who knows himself. It gets nods around the table. And nobody pushes back on it, because pushing back feels kind of rude. Like you're telling somebody they haven't accepted reality yet. But I want to push back on it anyway. Because it isn't true. And the real reason people stop learning has nothing to do with what they're capable of.

Let me start with what's just physically true, because the science here is settled. It isn't even close. Your brain rewires itself in response to demand. "Use it or lose it" is very, very real when it comes to how your brain works. You learn something and use it, and the connections get stronger, denser. You stop using something, and those connections thin out. This is called neuroplasticity. And it does not shut off when you turn thirty, or fifty, or seventy. Adults build new neural pathways every single day. Stroke patients relearn how to speak and move by rerouting function to undamaged parts of the brain. And regular adults pick up new languages, new instruments, new trades. I learned to play guitar in my thirties.

So the capacity is there. It stays there. Which means the question was never whether you can learn. The question is, why don't you?

And a professor at the University of Michigan named Howard McClusky answered that question decades ago. Long before anybody had even proven neuroplasticity was real. He spent his whole career studying how adults actually learn. And what he found is called the Theory of Margin.

Here's how it works. Every one of us is carrying a Load. And we're holding a certain amount of Power. Load is everything that's demanding something from you. The business. The payroll. The mortgage. The aging parent. The kid struggling in school. All those obligations you took on years ago and never revisited. And Power? Power is what you've got to meet all that with. Your energy. Your health. Your money. Your skills. The people in your corner.

And Margin is what's left over. The space between what's demanded of you, and what you've actually got to give.

And here's what McClusky concluded. In his own words, when a person has a reserve of Power, they are, quote, "better positioned to take risks, can engage in exploratory, creative activities, and is more likely to learn." More likely to learn. He drew a straight line, sixty years ago, from having margin to being able to change.

So flip that around, and you get the real diagnosis. When your Load equals or exceeds your Power, you have no margin. And with no margin, you don't learn anything new. Not because you can't. But because there's just no room left in the container.

Let me give you a picture of this. Think about a plain sheet of notebook paper. Every sheet has that margin line printed down the side, right? Blank space, on purpose, that you're not supposed to write in. And it's there for a reason. Because the page gets handled. The edges tear. Life happens to that piece of paper. And the margin is what makes sure that when something unexpected hits the page, the words survive it. Your life works exactly the same way. Things eat at the edges. Good things and bad things both. And if you've filled every square inch, there's nothing there to absorb the hit. No room for the opportunity that shows up on a Tuesday. No room for the skill that would change your next five years. No room for the crisis you didn't schedule.

And that, right there, is the golden cage hiding inside "that's just how I am." Because saying you're too set in your ways sounds like maturity. It sounds like a man who's made peace with himself. And it draws sympathy, instead of scrutiny. But the cage is that the story protects the load. As long as the problem is just your nature, you never have to look at your calendar. You never have to close a loop, or fire a client, or delegate the thing you've been hoarding. Or admit that you built this crushing weight yourself. One yes at a time. The gold is the lie. You're not incapable of change. You're just too loaded down to attempt it.

So what do you do about it?

Margin is a ratio. Which means you've got two levers. You can cut the Load, or you can build the Power. Most of us need both, but the Load side moves faster. So start there. Sit down with a legal pad, and I'd suggest doing this with somebody who knows you well, because you'll miss things they'll catch. And write down every unfinished thing that's pulling at you. Everything you started that never got a real ending. The conversation you keep meaning to have. The hire you haven't made. The apology you owe somebody. Business, personal, relational, financial. Don't filter it. Don't rank it. Just get it all out onto the paper. Most people are genuinely shocked at how long that list gets.

Then split it three ways. First, the things you can close today. Make the call. Send the email. Say the thing. Close them now. Second, the things you can close with a little planning. Put a date on each one. And third, the heavy ones. The ones that need real effort, or outside help. Sometimes those have been open for years. And that third category is where most people just give up. Don't. Give yourself permission to temporarily close those. That means you go to the person, you're honest about where you are, and you agree to reopen it when you're actually in a position to honor it. That's not walking away. That's the difference between a problem that drains you every single day, and a problem that just waits.

Now, Load creeps right back in through your calendar. So I'm going to hand you the same thing I handed you last week. Because it matters that much. It's called the 10-Block Weekly Method, and it's how I protect margin in a real week. It keeps that Load from quietly filling up every single hour you own. You can grab the whole system, template included, at therealjasonduncan.com/ten-block. That's therealjasonduncan.com, slash, the number one zero, then the word block.

There's a proverb that ties this whole thing together. Proverbs, chapter eighteen, verse fifteen. "An intelligent heart acquires knowledge, and the ear of the wise seeks knowledge." Notice the verb there. The wise seek. That's an active posture. And it takes room to hold it. You cannot seek anything while you're pinned under a load you never even questioned. So clear the space first. And the seeking takes care of itself.

So that's what's real this week. You are not an old dog. You're just carrying too much to learn a new trick. Set some of it down.

And if you look at your load and you realize most of it traces back to a business that just can't run without you, that's a bigger conversation. And I'd like to have it with you. Head to therealjasonduncan.com/talk and book a call with me directly. That link's in the show notes.

I'll talk to you next Wednesday.

The gold is the lie. As always, I am your host, The Real Jason Duncan, and Jesus is King.

EPISODE TITLE: The Old Dog Can Learn. He's Just Too Loaded Down.

EPISODE DESCRIPTION:

"You can't teach an old dog new tricks" sounds like honest self-awareness. It's actually a cover story, and in this Wednesday Special Edition, Jason takes it apart.

He starts with the settled brain science: neuroplasticity proves your capacity to learn and change doesn't shut off with age. So if capacity isn't the problem, what is? Jason turns to Howard McClusky's Theory of Margin to explain the real reason people stop growing. Their Load has swallowed their Power, and there's no room left to learn anything new. Then he hands you a practical fix, an open cycles inventory, to start reclaiming the margin that makes change possible again.

If you've been telling yourself you're too set in your ways, this one's for you.

Grab the free 10-Block Weekly Method template at therealjasonduncan.com/10block. Ready for a bigger conversation? Book a call at therealjasonduncan.com/talk.

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